Stress Free Wedding Planning
10 wedding tips
to think about before the day
1. Proposal accepted – better start planning the big day
It is never too soon to plan your big day, the easier the planning process will be and definitely easier on the nerves. A year or more ahead may seem a long time – but times flies. Allow yourselves plenty of time to tick off each task one by one – no advantage being in a mad rush – and before you know it, you’ll have everything in place!
2. Decide a budget before you start
Brainstorm a list of everything you’re going to need to pay for or plan for. Work out how much you have available to spend, and then allocate sums to each item (if money’s tight, this may involve some compromises – you’ll need to work out which things you’re willing to spend more on, and which aren’t so important to you). This will give you something to refer to when you talk to suppliers.
3. Consult those closest to you before setting the date
Venue availability may partly dictate the date you choose, but you’ll also need to discuss the date with the key people you definitely want to be there – think immediate family, bridesmaids and the best man. Discussing the date with them before you’ve set it in stone means you’ll avoid having to change the date of your wedding if someone important can’t come, which could prove costly. Remember to check any sporting events that might clash with your chosen date – hundreds of Receptions have been spoilt by the “boys” watching the World Cup Final!
4. Book the venue before everything else
Popular venues get booked up years in advance, so visit lots of different venues and get one booked before you move onto anything else. Do this as early as possible so that you stand the best chance of securing a venue you love. Suppliers will also want to know what venue you’ve chosen, as it may affect how much they charge if they have to travel a long distance. It is now very common for venues to give large discounts on mid-week bookings, this may save you money and reduce the number of guests who can attend. Also find out the venue’s policy on children attending, so allow some do not – it could help with those that can or cannot attend.
5. Go to wedding fairs
Many wedding venues hold wedding fairs a couple of times a year, so look out in your local paper to find out about fairs near you. These are a great source of inspiration and a place to meet suppliers, from photographers to hairdressers to magicians to fireworks companies. You’ll probably get a free glass of bubbly and cake samples to boot!
6. Don’t sweat on the small stuff
Contrary to what the wedding magazines might have you believe, you don’t actually need to get bogged down in tiny details like what confetti you’ll scatter across the tables. How many people are actually going to notice or remember after a glass or two of Champagne? Instead, focus on the things that will affect your guests’ experience of your day, such as the food and entertainment.
7. Don’t forget the logistics
Dress fittings, menu tastings and guest list dramas are all part of the build up to your big day, however it can be easy to overlook the logistics of the day. For example, how are you going to get from A to B in your style, as you want to arrive. As well as your own wedding car hire (yes you knew I would appear somewhere), you might want to think about how the groom will arrive (guess what, we can help). If the ceremony is a different location to the reception, how will the guest change venues (we can supply vehicles from saloons to mini-coach)? Oh and don’t forget where everyone will park – City Centre churches have very limited parking, as do some reception venues.
8. Keep everything in one place
You’re going to accumulate a lot of information, whether flyers, contracts lists and other documentation as the planning of your big day approaches. Keep it all in one place so you don’t lose anything – perhaps set aside a wedding box to house everything. You might also consider creating another email address which you both have access to, then all your suppliers can be kept away from your day to day life.
9. If all else fails, hire a wedding planner
If the thought of planning a wedding by yourself really doesn’t appeal, or your business life style just does not have enough time to spare – consider using a professional. A good, experienced wedding planner should remove a great deal of the stress, both before and on the big day whilst coming up with ideas you may not have previously considered.
10. Enjoy yourself, and never forget why you’re doing it
People may tell you that wedding planning is stressful, but it doesn’t need to be. It’s something you are (hopefully!) only going to do once, so try to relax and enjoy the process while it lasts. Throw yourself into the cake samples, menu tastings and dress fittings with gusto, but never lose sight of what it’s really about. Your bridal gown, table plan and flowers are relevant to just one day out of the whole lifetime you’re spending together. Keep that in mind and you won’t go far wrong!
Just one more – recent addition
The horrible subject of Covid 19 is upon us. Not a nice topic but needs to be considered. What am I suggesting? Consider arranging insurance for your big day, you would for the honeymoon abroad- so why not for the that very SPECIAL DAY! I have no connections with insurance companies but have seen several weddings disrupted during pandemic, and we do not know how much longer.